Over the weekend I was able to celebrate one of my great friend’s upcoming nuptials in Houston, Texas. When she first informed me she was getting married and set a date for a bridal weekend (bridal shower and bachelorette included) I was readily available offering to take some stress off her plate. Welp, she’s such an awesome person that I and a team of ladies decided to leave her out of the equation and plan the ENTIRE WEEKEND. Thank God she trusted us. She told us the decor and theme she preferred and we were off. We planned and planned and planned for this event and naturally, there were several bumps in the road. So I want to give remind all of those who decide to take on this HUGE responsibility to put your game face on. Here are my do’s and don’ts when planning a bridal weekend.
DO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR BRIDE TRIBE
One of the things that helped us was our communication. From group chats to emails, to conference calls we communicated as much as possible.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS
If you want to know if a member of your tribe already has something covered ASKED! This was a tiny bump we ran into. Assume nothing and question everything.
DO HAVE A BUDGET!
Okay, so we didn’t really have a budget we were just putting up our money. I would not recommend this. Set a price and stick to it. This way you know from the beginning actually how much money you will need to contribute overall. If something isn’t going to work within your budget go back to step one COMMUNICATE. It’s okay if you don’t have the funds for everything. Contribute what you can.
DON’T FEEL THE NEED TO TAKE ON ALL THE TASKS
The beautiful thing about working with this group of ladies was, we were each responsible for something. Everybody had a specific task and we made that task happen. It’s easier to split the job then trying to figure out everything yourself.
DON’T WAIT UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE!
Trust me you want to book your venue, event planner, desserts, room, travel, whatever ASAP! The longer you wait, the fewer options you’ll have available and nobody wants to be left with slim pickings.
DO SMILE THROUGH THE PROCESS
Trust me you’ll know I have anxiety and for a moment my only focus was this bridal weekend. Trust and believe everything will all come together. Yes, things will go wrong, people will drop out, people will get added, all of that. But Smile through the process because everything will be okay.
DON’T FORGET THE GOAL
This isn’t about you! This is about the bride. Your task is to make her vision come to life and remember you signed up to assist her so don’t add more stress.
Check out some pics below from our fabulous weekend.
Thanks for reading. Stay Selfish.